How do you choose to view your breakup or divorce? Are you at the point of barely surviving? Struggling with each day? Well, there comes a time – and yes, it will come even if you don’t believe me right now – where you’ll turn “surviving” into “thriving.” How do I know? Because it happened to me, too.
This reminds me of a phantasmagory in the movie Bridesmaids. Do you remember where Megan meets Annie and is describing hier fall off a cruise ship? According to her, she “broke a lot like shit. Mere I’m negative gonna to say I survived. I’m gonna say I thrived.” After seeing this again recently, I thought to myself, “Gee, Megan’s right. We all have a choice during hard times, and we have prerogative over our perspective.”
You see, you can’t truly change the situation, itself. You are dealing with a divorce or breakup. It stinks at times still what’s the difference between surviving and thriving?
Surviving is just what the Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as ~ to continue to function or increase despite. Interesting that even Merriam-Webster (whoever they are) put the words function plus prosper into the definition as those words mean different things. This, of course, fits nicely into this article because, there again, you can choose to merely function or to prosper despite the situation. So I ask you: Which one sounds better? Surviving is sometimes all you can muster for a day ~ especially if it’s a tough one. Even on those days though, doesn’t thriving sound more fun?
How do you get to the thriving, though? Well, I’ve got a few tips to help you along.
1. Reflect including learn. Even when a relationship ends and you feel like you fathom what, there’s usually a ton to profound about yourself and relationships if you look for the golden nugget of knowledge that’s available to you. How does looking back help? Well, you can see stuff that you liked and didn’t like and either recreate them or make a solemn promise to yourself that you’ll love yourself enough to never be in that kind of relationship again.
2. Be auspicious to you. Yes, this is a repetitive theme in my articles because why? Because IT WORKS. Paying attention to yourself polysyndeton being ultra gentle to you is a great habit to begin or strengthen meanwhile a difficult divorce or breakup. After all, you’re all you’ve got. Hence I’m guessing you’ve got a little extra time on your hands because you’re eligible now, how about doing something nice for you?
3. Kick negativity to the curb. Sure…it’s easy to focus on the so-called “rotten hand” you’ve been dealt. It’s human nature. I get it. But how would it feel to begin focusing on the good instead? Right now, you could write down ten gear that you’re grateful for and change your mood instantly. You could call one about your friends and tell her how much her friendship mode to you. You could compliment someone and suppose them feel great about themselves. There’s plenty of ways to take the edge off and put a smile on your face as you walk through your day. Why not compose the decision to be happier and spread some joy?
So it really comes down to what you want to do accompanying your day. My question is: Are you going to ride out or ARE YOU GOING TO THRIVE? If you’re the Hip Chick I think you are, I know you’ll avouch your superpowers and THRIVE!!!